Samantha Roach

I thought you might want to know a little background on me. I am married to a wonderful husband...Paul Roach, whom I call the hunk! Paul has a son, James, whom we raised from the time he was 11 years old. He is grown now, and a youth pastor in Weatherford, Oklahoma, married to a wonderful girl, Lori, who is also a minister, and we have our very first grandbaby, Savanah Madisyn. Paul and I pastor Solid Rock Christian Center in El Reno, Oklahoma, my husbands home town. We love being here and we love our wonderful people. Life was not always wonderful for me. Many years ago because of poor decision making on my part, I married, divorced and married a 2nd time; to a man who was physically and mentally abusive as well as being an alcholic. I wasn't such a great catch either. I was dabbling in things that would have destroyed me including fast becoming an alcoholic. Life was not good. Three years after I married him I looked at my life and said, I know better, the way I am living is not right. I turned my life back over to God and asked him to put within me what ever it was that I needed to follow him all the rest of my life. That was in April of 1971. He has been so faithful. My 2nd husband finally asked me for a divorce one final time and I said yes. We had become millionaires by then (at least on paper) but I had to walk away with nothing but the clothes on my back and my car. At age 32 I had nothing to show for my life, but God spoke to my heart and said if I would follow him he would make my life rich and wonderful. He has done just that. I graduated from Bible School in Oklahoma in 1982, traveled and ministered throughout the United States, met my wonderful husband and in a romance only God could put together we married in 1984 and I've been a pastors wife ever since. I still travel and minister and am an associate pastor at our church.

Hi! It's July 2006. I started this website 2 years ago! Since that time, I have had a million interruptions and countless situations that kept me from getting things going the way I had originally envisioned this website. Having prayed over this some more, I feel in my heart that I will just start sharing from my heart concerning being a pastor's wife. I had originally thought to have many different wives share but that has not caught on like I had hoped. In retrospect it may be because I was trying to go down the wrong path. In praying over this I decided that I'm just going to write an article from time to time based on what I personally am dealing with or what friends of mine, and/or any of you may share with me (naturally keeping it anonymous). I am 61, soon to be 62 and have been a pastor's wife for 22 years. I think that probably qualifies me as a "seasoned" PW (pastor's wife). I have been involved in ministry full time for 25 years. I've seen lots of things come down the pike. Things that I have gone through and things that I've heard of what other PW's have gone through. (PW's are not to be confused with POW's - prisoners of war-even though I'm sure some of you have felt like that on occasion.) Hopefully, I have some things in me that will be a blessing to you. The truth is I love being a PW. I love the people of our church. Granted, there have been times when I wanted to kill an occasional member of our church and tell God they died. Fortunately, reason and God have always prevailed and I have not done that. I'm sure God is pleased that Spirit prevailed over flesh. I have provided an 800 number for any of you who just want to talk. I'm not here to condemn anybody, judge anybody or be your moral conscience. I'm here to be a blessing in any way that will help you, encourage you, strengthen you or just be an ear that listen's. I have an e-mail contact that you can use and I'll do my best to get back to you just as quickly as possible. In the mean time, God bless you and happy pastoring. Love Samantha